I do like Father’s Day, it’s so nice for the dad’s to feel special. My partner does just as much for Hallie as I do, from the start we have tried to keep it quite equal. I think it can be quite difficult in the beginning for the Dad’s, especially with breastfeeding, as that can take up a lot of the time and clearly the Mum is mainly involved in that. Mum’s can be so focused on bonding with the baby themselves, that they forget the Dad also needs that chance to bond, but there are plenty of other tasks the Dad’s can do (nappy changing for one haha).
It can be annoying when people say I am lucky that Matt is so good, not because I don’t want him to be given praise, but because we are an equal partnership, we went into this parenting journey together, equally, as Giovanna Fletcher put it so well earlier ‘he is one half of a parenting team’.
We are a great team and we truly are disorganised harmony.
I am not the perfect Mum and he is not the perfect Dad, but we are guiding each other through parenting and having a lot of fun along the way. We are taking it as seriously as it needs to be taken, with out it being too serious, and I think that’s the key. We have learnt/are learning chill. Nobody can be chilled with a newborn, it’s just freaking impossible. I wish I had written down all the crazy worst case scenarios that went through my head so I could have a good laugh at them now. I feel like one parent learns chill before the other (Dad’s I am kinda looking at you) and this can lead to…tension…this springs to mind…
But again, that’s just part of the journey of parenting together.
Happy Father’s Day to all you Dadda’s out there x